You are the boss

Hey there, Do you ever have days that just turn into a downward spiral and make you wish like you never got out of bed? Well, if you are, I’m sure you’re able to recall what those days feel like. When this happens, we’re essentially giving up our control, we are relinquishing command to the mercy of others and the events of the day. These are the days when we should be standing up and saying, “I am the boss, I’m in charge of how I feel!”

To do this you have to take greater control over your focus. By focus I mean, of course, your thoughts and emotions. It’s definitely not easy to avoid being influenced by the things you experience day to day, especially if you’re not used to controlling your own thoughts and emotions. Sometimes no matter how hard you try, you keep slipping back into old habits and losing your focus. Here’s two tips that I use almost everyday to keep control. Give them a try next time you feel things starting to slip away!

1) “I choose to believe [blank] ….”

This statement can come in very handy when you start falling back into negative thinking. One little thing will happen and suddenly you’ll find yourself locked into a negative state of mind where nothing is going right and nothing ever will! When you notice this happening, you can take control immediately by saying things that counteract the negative things you were just thinking.

Examples:

“I choose to believe that everything will work out just fine.”
“I choose to believe that I control my thoughts and emotions.”
“I choose to believe that great success is my destiny.”
“I choose to believe that I can do anything I desire.”

Just remove the focus from negative expectations and thoughts, and replace them with more positive (and powerful) affirmations.

2) “I choose to feel [blank] ….”

It’s easy to forget that you really do have the power to choose your emotional state, and this little statement can help remind you! Whenever you notice you’re starting to feel down or aggravated, choose the emotion you want to feel instead.

“I choose to feel calm.”
“I choose to feel happy.”
“I choose to feel inspired.”
“I choose to feel optimistic.”

Then, of course, once you’ve chosen a more positive emotion, you need to focus on actually feeling it. That may sound difficult, but it’s not if you use the power of your thoughts. Think about something that makes you feel calm, happy, inspired or optimistic. It can be something from your past, something you want to experience, or something that’s just pure fantasy. As long as it inspires the right emotions, you’re on the right track!
It takes a little bit of time at first, but once you get into the habit, you’ll find it happens almost on autopilot.

Warmly,
Antien